College Girls are Easy

Danger, Will Robinson! Morons at twelve-o’clock! (link courtesy of Jenn at Always the Freak, courtesy of Bad in a Good Way).

The above article, entitled “College Girls: Unpaid Whores” (yes, now go back and click the link…) is written by a Cornell University Ph.D. candidate, and self-obsessed zealot, Joseph Sabia. It would take the better part of a novel to cover ALL of the reasons why this particular individual is full of excrement, so I’ll just hit the thoughts that come to mind.

I sincerely hope that this is an opinion column, because Mr. Sabia tosses around loaded, vaguely defined words like rice at a wedding. His article is explicitly and implicitly misogynistic, and really fails to take into account that this behavior that he deems “slutty” has been the focal point of an incredible double standard for years.

“slutty sentiments are implicit in the standard female college behavior” I’m not sure what sort of female student is standard at Cornell where Mr. Sabia attends school, but I’ve come in to contact with many females from many North American Universities, and I’ve come to the conclusion that MOST females are not nearly as free with sex as he seems to imply that they are. Neither I, nor anyone I know, has sex with random people on a frequent basis. This is a major premise of his article and he has absolutely nothing emprical to back it up.

I’m not going to go on and on rebutting this article with demonstrates a supremely ignorant world-view on the part of this otherwise intelligent individual… but let’s look at a few things.

Anyone who passes judgement on a woman based on the fact that she has sex is missing a huge part of the discussion. WHY is she having sex? I feel that the purpose behind the sex should be the determining factor in the judgement. Is Christina having sex with Al to get him to love her? Is she doing it for a self-esteem boost? Or is she doing it because it feels good? Maybe because she’s curious? Women who, consciously or not, use sex as a tool to fulfill their emotional needs are probably looking to get hurt. Most guys have a tremendous ability to compartmentalize. Physical acts and feelings reside in two different compartments and, while there MAY be a link there, it’s not necessary and it’s certainly the exception and not the rule. This could be turned around to apply to men, as well: WHY does a guy feel it necessary to have sex twice a week (regardless of who it’s with)? If he bases his definition of “manhood” on how many girls he can get in the sack, there are obviously deeper issues to be dealt with.

It really makes me wonder where Mr. Sabia is getting his data. Is he finding truckloads of Cornell girls to have sex with all the time? If so, the hypocrisy of the article is just amazing. If not, not only is the whole article based on assumptions that he doesn’t really know the truth of, it looks like he’s just a little bitter because all of those Cornell Frat guys are stealing his women. Heh.

His commentary on “friends with benefits” situations is just silly. I’ve been there (though it didn’t progress into terribly serious physical activity) and let me be the first to advocate it. Let’s face it, people have urges. You have two options, control them or appease them. If you’re GOING to appease them (and I’m not necessarily implying that you should or shouldn’t), it might as well be in a setting where both people understand the ground rules. Leading someone on is just wrong, and “friends with benefits” situations allow people to entertain their various desires without having to misrepresent their feelings/intentions to do it.

Probably the most annoying thing about the article, is the spattering of religious banter that he assumes all people should be subject to. Here’s the clincher: “But true love can only be understood in the context of the Word of God. Any other notion of love is secular and, by definition, limited and finite.” I’m not sure what dictionary Mr. Sabia is pulling his ideas from here, but it’s pretty obvious that it’s not this one.

My prognosis is that Mr. Sabia is determened to share his opinion of what “good morals” are with the world and, being a smart cookie, decided that if the article was offensive it would have a larger readership. Congratulations, Mr. Sabia, your idiocy has enticed people to read. Now you’re famous!